Dating a punjabi guy
I asked him why he left the kitchen whenever we had decided ‘to cook together.’ And his response was ‘Oh I thought you liked doing this for me.’ Now, I know this is because at home he is used to being ‘served’ by his mum and sisters, but again this expectation of the female ‘serving’ the male is an inherited Punjabi ideology.In response I asked him, “Do you not feel I would like to make some calls and play some music too?In 2008, when my heart sincerely fell in love with Sikhi, I knew that in order for my Sikh path to grow, I too needed to find someone with similar spiritual beliefs and values as myself, which in turn meant; A Sikh dude.My brain froze as these were the conflicts I knew came with the understanding of marrying a Sikh boy: 1) Most Sikh boys are Punjabi, 2) Punjabi boys from a young age are indoctrinated with the ideals that they are the superior gender, 3) They have expectations of the ‘wife’ serving them, 4) They have been spoon-fed by their mothers, 5) They do not know how to cook or wash clothes (many do not have the drive to learn either), 6) Due to mothers need to give them everything: they have not nurtured their life skills, 7) Most Punjabi boys don’t go further than Bhangra, Rn B, Hip Pop and Pop and frown upon those that do not conform to ‘Punjabi’ conventions (I love a variety of music genres, mainly alternative) 8) They either tend to drink alcohol or completely condemn alcohol, 9) Or the guy is so in denial about being Punjabi that he scoffs at any association with Punjabi culture.This was highlighted during an akhand paath Sundeep’s mum held for us, many women said ‘May you be blessed with sons.’ (2014).
Especially when both the mother and father are working people.
Variedades El arroz rojo no es ningún invento ni debe su color a ningún tinte o proceso químico, sino que es una variedad de arroz como cualquier otra, con sus propiedades y beneficios Elaborar postres con licor no es nada nuevo, aunque cuando preparamos dulces se nos suele olvidar que un toque de bebida espirituosa puede ensalzar el sabor y llevar el postre a la perfección.
Firstly, I want to apologise for the stereotyping I will be doing throughout this article.
Also, coming from a family of four kids and one child being special needs, I always felt we were a ‘big’ family.
I always knew I craved more attention from my parents, and, as a teacher, I notice most kids in big families have attention seeking tendencies.